It’s been too long.
I sat across from a dear person this week, talking to them about my schedule:
“Yeah,” I said, “It’s been a busy week. Starting a new job, getting into a new groove, loving it all – but yeah, it’s busy.”
They nodded. “I know that feeling,” they replied.
“Yeah! Wait until you have kids, it only gets busier.”
How many times have you heard the line “…it only gets busier...”? Dozens? Hundreds? I’ve heard it 2,309 times exactly. And since I heard it the first time, things have only gotten busier.
Yet the tragedy is, in the midst of all the busyness, things get left behind. Jobs. Duties. Responsibilities. People. We sacrifice things to the gods of the hustle-bustle. We unfortunately sacrifice a lot of relationships in the process, too.
Who have you sacrificed lately? This week I sacrificed my two best friends – I ignored them for the sake of the god of busyness. No, they weren’t facing any sort of crisis or emergency, but they are still my best friends. Ignoring the daily support of a friend is like forgetting to drink water – you’ll survive for a while, but eventually you will dry up.
Super smart-guy and leadership consultant Dr. Henry Cloud wrote a brilliant little book called Necessary Endings. I’m getting the chance to read it this week, but already I hate it – it hits too close to home! Dr. Cloud starts the book with a chilling yet honest observation:
“Today may be the enemy of your tomorrow.“
Today, we make decisions to focus on busy and not on relationships. Today, we make commitments that will make us sacrifice something tomorrow. Are those sacrifices worth it for the sake of… mere… busyness?
I doubt it.
At 100 miles per hour, my weeks has been swamped with responsibilities and work. No, you can’t shrug it all, but you can take a step back and see what is really important. As I sit down and write this, I have a graduate assignment due, social media posts to do, projects to finish, and events to plan. Those all have their place. But I think about what is important, what I really want to invest my time doing, I have to wonder if those things are worth it. Honestly, when I think about what is important to me and the things I want to remain important to me twenty years from now, those things aren’t on the list.
All I want to do now, is go to my sister-in-law’s basketball game with my wife. And I won’t regret a moment of it.
What about you?